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Jolie Discusses Her Culinary Skills

Angelina Jolie has revealed that her six-year-old son Pax is a better cook than she is.

The actress opened up about her home life, including Pax’s culinary skills, in the December issue of Vogue magazine.

In the article, readers get a glimpse inside Angelina and Brad Pitt’s household with its six kids, bulldog named Jacques and nannies who speak Vietnamese to Pax and Cambodian to Maddox.

The Hollywood star said she feels her oldest son, nine-year-old Maddox, who she adopted in 2001, almost raised her. Maddox seems aware of his mother’s feelings, encouraging her when she cooks breakfast, saying “Good job!”

She also talks about daughter Shiloh, who recently found a dead bird and wanted to keep it as a pet. Angelina’s answer was to find a bird from a taxidermist instead.

The Wanted star calls long-term partner Brad “extremely handsome and the most sexy,” but said she feels most in love when she sees him with their six kids.

Source: Irish Independent

Multi-tasking Mums

Researchers have found that the average mum has to remember 25 different tasks every single day, with the majority admitting they do most of them in autopilot.

And making sure the children have everything they need for school, feeding the household pets and even remembering their youngster’s favourite cuddly toy are also included in the daily to-do list.

But nine out of ten busy mums admit they are often so snowed under, they usually forget to do something, with more than one in ten admitting this happens several times a day.

Another 30 per cent say something slips their mind once every day.

The poll of 3,000 mums found that dinner is most likely to be forgotten with almost 48 per cent of mums saying they often forget to take something out of the freezer to defrost.

Another 29 per cent forget to remember all of the ingredients they need to make the evening meal and end up having to make another trip to the shops or order in a takeaway.

Birthdays of friends and relatives, taking library books back and paying the bills are other common tasks which get forgotten.

And while 35 per cent blame their forgetfulness on simply being too busy, another 23 per cent say they are always in too much of a rush to remember everything.

Almost one in ten say they are often too tired to keep track of all the things they need to do.

But 18 per cent admit they always feel guilty when they forget something.

And more than one in five mums have even gotten into trouble with their child’s teacher or school because they have forgotten to do something.

Researchers also discovered that almost two thirds of mothers feel under pressure from their family or other mums to remember everything in their daily routine.

And 48 per cent rely on lists to remember everything they need to do, while another 33 per cent put everything on the kitchen calendar.

Sixteen per cent even leave post-it notes around the house.

Top 25 things mums have to remember
1. Birthdays of friends and family members
2. Taking ingredients out of the freezer to defrost for the evening meal
3. Paying the bills
4. Doctor or dentist appointments
5. Getting the ingredients from the shop for the evening meal
6. Having clean shirts and trousers for kiddies
7. Packed lunches are made
8. Being on time for the school run
9. Feed the pets
10. If it is raining making sure they have a rain coat
11. Getting the kids to do their homework
12. Never leave the house without wet wipes, tissues and snacks in handbag
13. A drink is taken to school
14. Homework is taken to school
15. PE kits are taken to school on the right day
16. Getting the kids to do their reading
17. Packed lunches are taken to school
18. Permission slips for school clubs/day trips
19. School events such as fetes, shows etc
20. Taking library books back to the library/school library
21. Birthday parties for your children’s friends
22. Make sure they’ve taken their medications (hayfever etc)
23. The right books/textbooks are taken into school
24. Money for children’s school lunch
25. Making sure the child has their favourite comfort/cuddly toy

Top ten things mums are most likely to forget1. Taking ingredients out of the freezer to defrost for the evening meal
2. Birthdays of friends and family members
3. Getting the ingredients from the shop for the evening meal
4. Taking library books back to the library/school library
5. Paying the bills
6. Doctor or dentist appointments
7. Never leave the house without wet wipes, tissues and snacks in handbag
8. PE kits are taken to school on the right day
9. Permission slips for school clubs/day trips
10. Having clean shirts and trousers for kiddies

Source: One Poll

Modern women have it all but they’re far from happy

THE release of ‘Sex and the City 2’ coincides nicely with the 40th anniversary of the founding of modern feminism in this country with the Irish Women’s Liberation Movement. The movie and the series show how far women’s rights have advanced since 1970, but they also show the much more ambiguous side of feminism.


What makes a good Toddler Group?

It needs to be welcoming, new parents and minders should be warmly greeted and offered a cup of tea or coffee.

  • Try to introduce people to others, helps with networking and keep an eye that new people are not feeling isolated and sitting on their own.
  • Good Biscuits – ‘People say we have the best biscuits and I’m sure it makes a difference’ says Linda, one of the Mums at this Toddler group.


Are we relying on Bridget Jones?

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A recent article by Jennifer Howze on the Aplha Mummy page of Times Online caused me to raise both my eyebrows. The article states that ‘non-parent’ workers (your classic Bridget Jones singleton if you go with the theme in the article), are picking up the slack for working parents.

Having been a working mum in an office where my daily juggling act was far from understood and empathised with, I have to say that I disagree with the articles claims.

My 4-day a week role, really meant that I was expected to fulfil a full-time role in the 4 days – as is so often the case with ‘part-time’ positions. And that was just the office job. I then, of course, returned home to my other numerous jobs of mother, house orderly, cook, cleaner etc.

Of course, I did have days when I was absent from work at short notice as a result of a child being sick, but I would like to think that these days were no more disruptive than my singleton colleagues’ ever-so-predictable rounds of Monday-itus and Friday-itus (after a hectic weekend and mid-week schedule of socialising and partying). As a working mum I, of course, had no time in my week for such frivolities. Sigh.

Personally speaking, I think working mothers are ultra-committed – because they know that they are being watched for the slightest slip-up, giving everyone the opportunity to say, “I told you so – unreliable working mum”.

Howze tells it as she sees it – and, to be fair, she has experienced both sides of this argument. Eyebrows still aloft, I’m afraid I am firmly in disagreement.

What do you think?

Read the full article here

Stressed? You bet I am!

stressed-mumFinally, it’s official. Being a stay-at-home parent is the most stressful job imaginable! Well, at least, it is according to a recent study undertaken in the UK. Not that I’m surprised – I could have told them that without the need for a lengthy study on the matter!

Having worked in an office environment before my kids, then as a working mother and most recently, changed to my new role as a Stay At Home Mum, I think I am fairly well qualified to have my say on this matter. On balance, I really do have to agree. This in one tough job!

In the pressurised, corporate roles I worked in before my current life of domestic bliss (did I say bliss, sorry, I meant to say utter chaos), I have of course, felt stressed on many occasions; presenting to the senior management, chasing deadlines, and making tough decisions. Ultimately though, I enjoyed my corporate life and made some fantastic friends along the way.

Having also struggled my way through the glass ceiling as a working mother, I know what it’s like to experience the split personality required to balance corporate and family life; switching from high profile meetings one minute to singing nursery rhymes and making animal noises the next.

But, in my experience, it is the relentless demands, pressure, chaos and all encompassing role of that as a Stay At Home Mum (SAHM) which I have found the most stressful. I feel like my work is never, ever done. The ‘To Do’ list is a bottomless pit of things to arrange, buy, cook, clean, organise, tidy, fetch from and return to rightful places. I fall into bed utterly exhausted at the end of another busy day.

Perhaps one of the hardest aspects of being a SAHM is the lack of adult company. There is no-one to bounce ideas off, no-one to have a good moan to over a cup of coffee, no-one to help you put things into perspective over lunch to help you face the afternoon with renewed energy and vigour. You simply have to get on with it, regardless.

And you can forget about trying to sit down for a coffee break, lunch break or to make a phone call. All are pretty much impossible with the children always on high alert to the fact that you are trying to have some ‘me time’, or simply trying to organize their place at school, or re-schedule a meeting with the bank manager. Within seconds they appear from out of nowhere, instantly demanding your attention!

But of course, for every yin there is a yang, and being a Stay At Home Mum, whilst being incredibly stressful, is also fabulously rewarding.

What do you think? Is this the most stressful job there is, or do you think SAHMs are extremely lucky to have this time with their children?

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